Wednesday, April 01, 2026

20 Cups of Chai and a Sugary Sunday

Happy April! No foolin' or practical jokes here- I haven't the bandwidth. This is just a quick recap of fun moments from the last couple of weeks. 

I had the chance to give another Indian food talk to local seniors. This one focused on chai culture in India. They say that teaching is the best way to learn, and it is certainly true for me. I did some reading and light research before the talk, and learned quite a bit. Such as the fact that chai culture as we know it, which is so ingrained and ubiquitous in everyday Indian life, only really came about in the last 100 years. I read an interesting article on this bit of history called Making Tea in India, Chai, Capitalism Culture (Thesis Eleven, 2012) by an American professor named Philip Lutgendorf. Some of his work is covered in this article

A few of the things I covered in my talk-

  • Tea and chai mean the same thing, so don't say "chai tea" :) (a public service announcement, if you will, although I will say that hearing "chai tea" doesn't trigger me the way it seems to trigger some people...)
  • Tea and hospitality in Indian homes- the concept of "atithi devo bhava"
  • Stories of Irani cafes in Mumbai when I was in college and tea-time breaks in canteens
  • Typical ways of making chai (boiling water with black tea, spices, milk, sugar)- stovetop, pot and strainer
  • Explaining spices that are added to chai- ginger, cardamom, chai masala, etc.
  • Etc.
The talk was secondary to all the food and drink, of course. I made 20 cups of chai in the instant pot in the classroom! The morning of the class, V asked me, "oh, can you make chai in the instant pot?" and I was like, ask me tonight because I'm about to find out! It does work well. 
  • I made it in an open instant pot, no lid, on saute mode.
  • Added 12 cups of water to begin with, with tea, sugar, and about 4 cups milk...this is in a 6 quart pot
  • Made an "everything" chai with ginger, cardamom and chai masala since I couldn't just choose one flavor!
  • Strained the chai into cups, then added more water and milk and kept the chai going, just like the tea stall folks do it. Made for a strong tea.
For food, I served 
  • An assortment of biscuits (cookies)
  • An assortment of mithai (sweets)
  • Chaklis, as an example of "namkeen" or savory treats
  • Sev puri (with homemade sweet and spicy chutneys)
  • Chutney sandwiches, which were a bit of a flop since I forgot to take along the sliced cucumbers and tomatoes! 

I used scraps of Indian block print cottons to sew cute little tea-bag bookmarks to give out as a party favor to all attendees. Wish I had taken a picture of the colorful lot! It brought together my love for books, chai and sewing into one project. The participants were very gracious and sweet and seemed to enjoy my little chai party.

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I generally reserve Sunday afternoons for a good bit of cooking and meal prepping for the week ahead, making 2-3 entrees like dal, lasagna, and/or meal components like baked tofu and cooked black beans. This Sunday I spend a good bit of time instead making cupcakes to take in to work on Monday for a celebration. One work friend requested pistachio cupcakes so that's where I started, with this recipe. Spiked it with a bit of cardamom because I am genetically programmed to add cardamom with pistachio. The cupcakes were great, if a little dry. 

The frosting was my favorite ermine frosting, but spiked with a tsp. of rosewater, zest of one lemon, and juice of half a lemon. It was a fantastic combination!


The cupcakes called for 3 egg whites, so I had 3 egg yolks left over. As on most weekends, my house was overrun with kids, and my daughter and her friends turned up wanting to bake. I pointed them to the three egg yolks and a recipe for vanilla pudding that called for 3 yolks! 
Rummaging through the fridge, I pulled out all available fruit- grapes, oranges, apples- and made a quick fruit salad. The girls enjoyed the fruit and custard in my thrifted "fancy" cups- this was a favorite childhood dessert of ours and I was pleased to share it with this lot. 

No productive cooking got done on Sunday, but we sure had a lot of dessert!

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Recent books--

On The Beach by Nevil Shute, a post-apocalyptic novel. I picked up this book because it keeps being recommended in Reddit book forums. It was written in 1957 and set in 1963, a time when there was a great deal of anxiety about nuclear war. The premise of the book is that a nuclear world war has killed off all humans in the Northern hemisphere. The cloud of radiation is drifting slowly southward, and people in Southern Australia spend a few months waiting for the inevitable.  

As grim as the premise of the book is, it focuses on everyday life and the different ways- from denial to acceptance- in which ordinary people react to catastrophic scenarios. I loved this book- it was a quick and engaging read. Sometimes a book matches your headspace at the time you read it, and this was the case for me. 

  • The epigraph of the book is this quote from the poem The Hollow Men - T.S. Eliot: This is the way the world ends/ This is the way the world ends/ This is the way the world ends/ Not with a bang but a whimper.
  • Two quotes from the book--
    • “Maybe we've been too silly to deserve a world like this.”
    • “It's not the end of the world at all," he said. "It's only the end for us. The world will go on just the same, only we shan't be in it. I dare say it will get along all right without us.”
Not all my books I read come from thoughtful recommendations. Many are books that I pick up randomly at the biannual library book sales, where you can fill a bag for 10 bucks. This was my haul from last weekend. I just grab whatever catches my eye, jostling my way through a crowded room of dozens of other book enthusiasts, and in most cases these are read and donated right back for future sales. 

These are two books I read in the last month that were bought in past book sales-

Good Morning, Miss Dove by Frances Gray Patton (published in 1954)- This looked like one of those cozy, old-fashioned stories, and it is just that. There are a few interspersed line illustrations in this book. You know the type. Enid Blyton vibes. It is the story of Miss Dove, who has served as a small-town geography teacher. She is feared and revered by generations of students. When she ends up in the hospital, she discovers just how far her influence goes. If you're looking for a cozy read, I recommend this book. 

Most of us probably have a "Miss Dove" in our lives. I certainly do- my high school English teacher. She was legendary and we heard stories about her from older cousins long before we ended up in her class. She was highly competent and terrifying, and I credit her for my love of the English language, grammar and prose. To this day, you can wake me up from a deep sleep and I will accurately point out figures of speech on a page- onomatopoeia, synecdoche, alliteration, and so on. They are imprinted in my brain.

Word Nerd: Dispatches from the Games, Grammar, and Geek Underground by John D. Williams Jr. Published in 2015, it is a memoir of sorts by the long-time executive director of the national SCRABBLE association. I have liked this board game all my life, which is why I grabbed this book when I came across it. It is fascinating to learn of these cool and off-beat careers (director of a board game association? how do I get this job?) and how people stumble into them. 

I learned quite a few things about the game, notably, that there is a huge difference between casual players and tournament players. The former (speaking for myself) enjoy the game because they enjoy words and their meaning, and language in general. The latter get where they are by memorizing massive word lists, and don't care about the meaning of words. They treat tiles as game pieces rather than letters of the alphabet.

Best blog post I read recently- Johanna's account of attending a massive cake picnic. Living vicariously!

Best new-to-me podcast- Good Job, Brain- a very entertaining trivia podcast.

Tell me about your month of March- what have you been cooking, eating, reading, watching?

21 comments:

  1. Nuprur, Can I just say that you are an inspiration and continue to be an inspiration by just living your life. When most folks are doom scrolling, you take your time to give a talk, then do a live cooking demo (I know it is just chai but I am shocked that in India, people have now started ordering "Chai" on swiggy), take all these snacks to share and on top of it that handmade bookmark. That bookmark is beyond adorable. Kudos to you.

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    1. Thank you for this kind note! I do more than my share of doom-scrolling, trust me LOL. How does ordering chai on apps work, I wonder? Does it not get cold in transit?

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  2. Nupur,
    I am always amazed at your creativity and boundless energy to do so much! The tea bookmarks are the most darling thing ever! The attendees will cherish and remember your talk for ages. I am a working mother and always marvel how you keep it all together AND find time to keep up your blog. Thank you so much from a long time reader (and sheepishly infrequent commenter).

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    1. Thank you, Anjali :) The bookmarks were such a fun little project. The blog I want to update once a week, but get around to writing it more like once a month- better than nothing!

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  3. I read Project Hail Mary as I wanted to read it before I see the movie. Even as someone who does not usually enjoy Sci-Fi, I loved it and recommend. Also finished Atmosphere (which was ok) and now reading The Enchanted April.

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    1. I too loved and recommend Project Hail Mary (the book). I also loved Andy Weir's first book, The Martian. (Like, I'm not. a huge sci-fi fan.) No plans to see the movie, though, not much of movie person and it is very long LOL.

      The Enchanted April is on my TBR!

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  4. Hi Nupur, I have been a loyal reader of your blog from a time before your daughter was born. I have always loved how no nonsense your way of living is.
    I would be so very nervous if I had to demo my cooking. I could do tedious presentations at work just fine but cooking demo is on another level! I am sure you planned well for it. That bookmark is so cute. It reminded me of one I crocheted during Covid.

    I have one request - could you please write about how you maintain work life balance if you are still working full time? Also how have you managed to not get gobbled up by Social Media? I work in Tech and since my phone is an appendage now, I find it very hard to stay away from Facebook. After I experienced the pull, I made sure to not even sign up for others such as Insta, Snapchat etc. Yet, I wish I could have more analog time with or without Social Media so that I could read more, crochet more and explore this new state that we moved to from North Carolina. My husband is similarly taken up by his video games and sometimes I see ourselves at the end of the long day, sprawled on the sofa - my phone and I, his video games & him. We dont have kids and not planning to have any. I want to live a more mindful, intentional life which I think you do so anything you can write about it, will be a great read. Thank you & have a great month ahead!!

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    1. Hello Himali, If I may suggest, join a class. That is one way of being forced to be accountable and stay away from devices. I have been learning Bharathanatyam for the last 10 years and sometimes I like like a masochist for all the self inflicted pain on myself, but then I would ask myself, if I am not in a class and not practising, what would i do, be on the phone? Also, I have been dabbling with embroidery recently. It is a forced medidtative and mindfulness exercise because maybe besides listening to music, you cant do anything else when you are embroidering. If you search for embroidery or other arts/crafts classes in community colleges, you will find courses. These are mostly free and you will meet a ton of women who are doing some or other projects and are keen to share their excitement with others.

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    2. Himali- Thank you for this lovely note. Cooking demos are fun, I feel like I have so many tricks and tips to share that I've picked up over decades of home cooking. And the audience is generally very new to Indian cooking so everything I teach is novel. The planning does take a LOT of time of effort- both in terms of taking all the stuff needed and scaling up recipes.

      I can definitely write about my efforts to fight mindless consumption, not because I'm an expert but because I am also battling it like most others.

      To share some specific tips that have worked for me:

      To read more- I have cultivated the habit of going to bed 30-45 minutes before bedtime to read. I also have a stack of library book and an inviting bed and it is a happy way to end the day.

      To crochet more- I keep a project bag in the living room with an ongoing project, generally a mindless one that I can pick up and set down whenever I have a few mins here and there.

      To explore your town and state- For local events, I scan the events calendar of the local newspaper (online) every few days to find interesting things and put them on my calendar.Sign up for newsletters from all local interesting organizations- in my case it is things like the art museum newsletter and the film festival mailing list.

      Maybe make a bucket list of things to do (local, day trips and weekend getaways), post it on the fridge and have fun checking them off.

      I will say that I cherish my limited free time SO much more now that I have young kids. Before I had kids, I took it for granted.

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    3. I so agree with the person above who suggested classes! I have taken classes and they have been life-changing in some ways, like the ballet class and women's weightlifting class which changed the way I view exercise. The nice thing about a class is that it is on your calendar and you are committed to going.

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  5. I am also not triggered by chai tea, but for those who are there is t-shirt which says “ if you ask me for chai tea I will give you a thappad slap “ 😃.
    As always a lovely read - you are my cozy blogpost

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    1. Thank you- "cozy" is my favorite thing :)

      And that t-shirt- goodness, a bit of an overreaction! LOL

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  6. My sister and I have been doing a monthly long-distance bake-off. She visited in March and so we decided to do "us against the cake" instead. It was a very complicated recipe that a friend chose: Esterhazy torta. We turned it into a dinner party and it was a lot of fun. I have been on a losing streak recently in choosing books but enjoyed Butter by Asako Yuzuki.

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    1. Bek- what a fun, fun way to have some long-distance sibling fun! I had to look up Esterhazy torta and it does look like a project!! Nothing like a baking or cooking project to bond with family/friends.

      Butter sounds like an interesting book!

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  7. Commenting after a while, Nupur. As always, appreciate your blog posts. Loved reading about your chai talk. It sounds wonderful and the bookmark is adorable. My almost 17 year old has expressed an interest in sewing and I’m planning on doing the course you recommended with her this summer. I bought a sewing machine second hand on Facebook a few years back and have never used it. Looking forward to finally learning.
    Currently reading Grit by Angela Duckworth. My son has had a couple of major setbacks in the past six months and he just keeps going. I tend to give up on things when they get hard or I tend to look at things more practically and look at data on whether it makes sense to continue with something etc. Got the book in an attempt to understand how he might be processing his experiences. It’s an interesting read so far and has helped me a ton already in how I can continue to be supportive.
    Watched Project Hail Mary, had read and loved the book. The movie is delightful. Btw I got my son a couple of Carlo Rovelli books and he devoured them. Thanks for the recommendation!

    Anu

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    1. Hi Anu- thanks for this sweet note! I hope you and your daughter have a wonderful time learning to sew. It is definitely one of those things that has a learning curve and requires heaps of patience.

      I read Grit a few years ago and it was a pretty good read. It is so true that grit (and related traits- tenacity, resilience) are ones I admire in people. There will be issues cropping up always- be a problem solver and keep going. Something I took away from the book was " Interests and passions are uncovered not by thinking and introspection but by trying things out". This definitely rings true for me.

      Awesome- glad your son liked the Carlo Rovelli books!

      I've read Project Hail Mary and liked it a lot. No plans to watch the movie but I think my husband will like it.

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    2. You’re amazing in how you remember what you’ve read. I tend to forget things. With my son, I was initially looking at things as sunken costs. Is there a point to continuing? Cut our losses and move on to something else. But the book showed me how he might be looking at it. It talks about interest, practice, purpose and hope. Even though he’s had setbacks, this is something that interests him, he’s willing to put in the work/practice, he sees purpose in it and there’s hope that results will be different. I also realized that perhaps I’m not very gritty. But I am a big believer in growth mindset and the book says I can be gritty when I find what my passion is. Has been an eye opening read for sure.

      Anu

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    3. Anu- I keep notes on non-fiction books to remember my take-aways. (I have a google doc for the books I really love, or else I just take notes in the goodreads review section.) No way I would remember it all!

      I love how your son is innately gritty. It is a great trait to have. But yes, we can all learn this mindset.

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  8. I loved reading about your chai talk with seniors — such a beautiful way to share culture and hospitality. Making 20 cups in the instant pot sounds like a fun adventure, and I’m inspired to try it myself!

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    1. Priya- it was a lot of fun! Do throw a big chai party and try it for yourself :)

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  9. As always I am awed by your creativity and generosity in your tea talk, baking cupcakes and kids snacks in those gorgeous fancy cups! Thanks for sharing my cake picnic post. I have finally posted my monthly chronicles post this month and shared an article about stoic attitudes from your previous post!

    I would like to read On the Beach. I've only seen the movie - it was very memorable to watch it at an outdoor cinema high on top of a building where we could look down at the State Library that was one of the locations for the movie. Word Nerd also appeals, though I don't think I could stand the competitiveness of being a tournament player. I am making a little more time for reading but wish for more hours in the day! (Case in point, I read this post over a week ago and have only just got around to commenting!)

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